Love is a beautiful thing, is like oil to an engine; it lubricates relationship. It is like salt to food, it adds taste to a relationship, it is like paint on a building, it adds beauty to a relationship, it is like cold water to a thirsty soul.
But you are likely to experience heartbreak at some time in your life unless you are willing to isolate yourself completely and never form a bond with any other human being.
This is because no one can live a happy and fulfilling life in isolation. Being in a relationship is a very good thing as there are so many things to gain from it.
Heartbreak or separation is one of the prices of a fruitless relationship.
In order to avoid trauma attached to heartbreak, there are steps you can take to stop having your heart broken too many times and to make those heartbreaks that you do experience less painful.
Here are 19 tips on how to avoid
heartbreak in a relationship.
#1 Not all relationships must lead to marriage.
Some relationships are for a reason, others are for a season. Only a few are for a lifetime. If doesn’t work out, don’t kill yourself. Discover the purpose and move on.
#2 Don’t rush into things
Take things steady, even when you think you have met the One. If you go from first kiss, to moving in with him, within a few days, you are likely to be very disappointed. The idea of whirlwind romances sounds wonderful, but they rarely go the distance. If he really is the One, then he’s not going to mind you taking things slowly at first.
#3 Love is never enough.
Understanding, compatibility, wisdom, patience and tolerance are equally important.
#4 Don’t lose sight of your own goals
Love is great; it’s a wonderful feeling, but it shouldn’t be the only thing in your life. Keep your hobbies, interests and follow your own dreams, because you are more than just the other half of a relationship. Your life is your own and, so long as you never lose sight of that, you will always have something else to concentrate on, if love doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped it would.
#5 Don’t give a man or a woman the totality of your heart.
Give God the totality of your heart. Love that person but put God first.
#6 Listen to what other people are saying
You can date whoever you want, but it is still wise to listen to what other people say about your man. If your friends and family don’t seem to like your guy, there could be very good reasons for that. Sometimes, people who are not in the relationship can see far more, than the person who is in love.
#7 Don’t get carried away with beauty or money.
If that person’s inner person cannot keep you, his money or her beauty cannot either.
#8 Don’t forget your friends
It’s healthy to have friends outside of a relationship anyway, so stay in touch with them and go out with them sometimes. Don’t make one man your entire world, however much you love him.
#9 When the negative signs are more than the positive signs.
It is better to withdraw your heart before it gets ”broken”
#10 Talk about the relationship.
When you are starting to feel that the relationship could be really going places, make sure that he feels the same way. Try and find out what his plans for the future are, and tell him how you are feeling about the relationship. You don’t want to find yourself saying: ‘But I thought you wanted the same things as I do’.
#11 Don’t demand trust; Earn it, build it or show it.
#12 Don’t let love blind you to the truth.
If you think that your man is playing away, then ask him for the truth, because if you ignore it, it will only make the inevitable breakup even more painful when it comes.
#13 Extreme jealousy is the quickest way to break that relationship.
#14 Never you compare him or her to someone else.
#15 Don’t settle for less than you deserve
You can’t sit on the sidelines, turning down everyone that you meet, but you have the right to be a little bit picky! Don’t jump into serious relationships with guys that you are unsure about and keep your eyes open for their faults. You should only be making commitments to men you are absolutely crazy about, so don’t settle for second best just because you don’t want to be on your own.
#16 Your relationship should not only be marriage driven; but care, love and concern driven.
#17 Don’t marry him or her because you saw him or her in church.
Many are in church but not in touch with God. It’s not WHERE you met, but WHO you meet that counts.
#18 Don’t base your relationship sex.
The bitter truth is that you can’t use sex to tie him down and don’t be deceived having sex before marriage is not a symbol of love but lust. So don’t open your legs but your brain and eyes in a relationship.
#19 Invest more on yourself.
Don’t get carried away with that relationship that you get to take care of yourself. Remember no one wish to settle down with a liability. Invest more in your career and become an irresistible person to him/her