According to the National Retail Federation, the average person will spend about $246 on Mother’s Day in 2022. When you think about it, it’s not a lot to spend on the people who have raised you and taken care of you for the rest of your life.
Now, honestly, my family able I can afford to spend some money at that course on Mother’s Day. But we usually don’t get close. In fact, our typical Mother’s Day tradition is an afternoon hike or picnic in the woods. It’s basically a free event, and the cost of gas to get there is negligible.
A big reason my family doesn’t spend a lot of money on Mother’s Day is because I dislike most of the traditions and spending opportunities associated with the day. There is a tradition.
1. Brunch
In principle, I’m not against branching. In fact, sometimes I go out to brunch with my kids, husband, and friends.
What I object to is the much hyped Mother’s Day brunch. You pay a small fee for a preset menu and have to sit in a crowded restaurant with a not-so-good preset menu and tired waiters running around. Noise from your chair and angry toddler. To be clear, I don’t blame young children.
Ultimately, I find the idea of a Mother’s Day brunch distasteful, so I don’t see why I would agree to let my family spend money on it. I can.
2. Flowers
Some people like to send flowers on Mother’s Day and other occasions. But I am not a flower lover. In my opinion, I spend enough time taking care of my kids and dogs.
3. Jewelry
Many of my friends like to buy jewelry for special occasions and show it off.
As a busy working mom with constant chores and running around, I find the thought of actually wearing jewelry daunting. Who wants to deal with a bracelet that sometimes moves around the wrist?
I don’t like jewelry and I know my husband won’t buy it for me because it tends to be expensive. I know (so they can ask to borrow it), but they admit it’s not mine.
Spend your money on things that matter to you
Whether it’s a Mother’s Day gift or for some other reason, my husband can surprise me with concert tickets or a fun day trip. But Mother’s Day brunch, flowers, and jewelry are high on my “dislikes” list, so I won’t be spending on those anytime soon.
If you feel the same way, discuss with your family what is important to you and what is not. Won’t. But if they don’t want to spend money on something like that, better speak up and be honest.